The Power of Positivity: What Preschoolers Learn From Our Emotions

Dr. Deb Zupito

When it comes to preschoolers, how we feel often speaks louder than what we say. Young children are incredibly tuned in to the emotions of the adults around them, whether it's a parent, teacher, or caregiver. They may not always understand the words, but they can absolutely sense the tone, energy, and mood we bring into a room. This is why positivity matters so much!!!

Preschoolers are in a critical stage of emotional development. They are learning how to regulate their own feelings, understand others, and respond to the world around them. When the adults in their lives model calmness, encouragement, and joy (even in small moments) it gives children a sense of safety, confidence, and connection.

Here is what positivity can look like in everyday preschool moments:

• Using gentle, encouraging language when guiding behavior

• Smiling and making eye contact to build connection

• Celebrating effort, not just outcomes ("You worked so hard on that puzzle!")

• Staying calm and patient during moments of frustration or big emotions

• Expressing gratitude and naming positive emotions out loud

This doesn’t mean we need to be cheerful all the time; kids also benefit from seeing how we handle real feelings in healthy ways. But choosing a positive, supportive tone, especially in challenging moments, helps children feel secure and teaches them resilience.

At the end of the day, children may not remember everything we teach them, but they will always remember how we made them feel.

Let’s show them what kindness, empathy, and optimism look like, every day!!!

Parent Resource:

For practical tips and tools to support positive parenting and emotional development, check out the Center on the Social and Emotional Foundations for Early Learning (CSEFEL). They offer free printable handouts, emotion charts, and strategies specifically designed for families of young children.

SMILE!!!!