Memorial Day: Talking with Preschoolers After the Celebrations

Dr. Deb Zupito

Grateful

Memorial Day is a time for remembrance, a day when we honor the brave men and women who gave their lives in service to our country. After the parades, picnics, and flag-waving celebrations are over, it’s a perfect moment to slow down and help young children reflect in simple, age-appropriate ways.

Talk About the Meaning of the Day in Simple WordsNow that your preschooler has seen flags, uniforms, or maybe a parade, you can connect it to the reason behind the day: "Today we say thank you to people who helped keep our country safe. Some of those helpers aren't with us anymore, but we remember them because they were very brave." Avoid discussing death directly unless it fits your family's comfort level. Keep the focus on gratitude and kindness.

Ask Open-Ended QuestionsEncourage your child to reflect on the day with simple questions like:“What did you see at the parade?b “Who do you think the flags were for?” “What does being brave mean to you? These invite thoughtful conversation without overwhelming them.

Create a ‘Thank You’ Craft Together. Use this quiet moment at home to make something meaningful: Draw or color a heart and write “Thank You” on it. Make a card or picture for a veteran you know (even if you mail it later). Trace your hands and write kind words inside: like “brave,” “helper,” or “thank you.”

End the Day with a Story or SongClose Memorial Day with a calm, comforting book or lullaby. Some gentle options: The Wall by Eve Bunting (for older preschoolers), Love Is by Diane Adams OR Share your own story!

Memorial Day can be both a time of gratitude and a chance to nurture empathy in young hearts. Even after the day's events are over, the conversations and connections we create with our preschoolers help them grow into thoughtful, compassionate people. And sometimes, those quiet moments at home are where the deepest lessons are learned.